Dominant Introverted Sensing [Si]: Abe is a creature of habit. He has his routine and greatly resents having it disrupted. He always reads in this room after dinner, so Ethan cannot have the television on in there! The thought of reading in a different room is simply absurd to him. Abe doesn’t enjoy compromising and wants things to be exactly as he’s used to. “This is how I live my life” and that’s that. He refuses to get a second television to put in Midge’s room because he’s not the sort of man who has two TVs. Abe is big on making comparisons. When he was Ethan’s age, he could re-sole a shoe. Abe is extremely traditional and the thought of Midge and Joel separating is simply unacceptable. She’ll just have to figure out a way to win him back. They can’t possibly get divorced. Abe uses things he’s seen or heard in the past in oder to handle situations in the present. If this way of completing a task worked in that situation, we can easily just apply it again now and get the same results.
Auxiliary Extroverted Thinking [Te]: It’s important for Abe to be efficient and pragmatic. He’s unable to sit back and watch people do things the wrong way when he knows the quickest and easiest way of accomplishing a task. When he overhears Midge and Imogene struggling to put together the gift bags for the birthday party, he steps in and shows them how to do things the right way. “Set up a line like Henry Ford. Then pass the bags from one to the other. Candy cigarettes, pass the bag, silly putty, pass the bag, and so on.” Asserting his dominance as the head of the household and being the boss are crucial for Abe. He sets the rules. It’s his show and everyone else would do well to remember that! “I still control this house. I’m just doing it from in here.” When Abe believes that there’s no change of Midge and Joel getting back together, he takes the most logical action: inviting an acquaintance (who happens to be a divorce lawyer) over for dinner…
Tertiary Introverted Feeling [Fi]: … However, because Abe prefers to do instead of discuss, Rose and Midge are appalled that he had the nerve to go out and do a thing like that without consulting them first. Abe is pretty reserved emotionally and doesn’t really express his feelings. On the rare occasions that he does, he tends to demonstrate them through actions rather than words. When Rose guilts him because he hasn’t done anything to help Midge, he tries to help in a practical way as opposed to offering emotional support. He goes to Moishe and convinces him to split the cost of Midge and Joel’s apartment with him, so that their home will be waiting if and when they reconcile. Abe values marriage, and wants Midge to do whatever it takes to get Joel to come home, even though he was the one having the affair and he was the one who walked out on her when she had done nothing wrong. At times, Abe can be fiercely protective of the people he loves
Inferior Extroverted Intuition [Ne]: Opening himself up to new things and dealing with change aren’t exactly Abe’s strong suits. He prefers what he’s familiar with. Unpredictability and disruptions in his usual schedule are stressful. He’s not very open to other people’s point of view because he tends to have trouble seeing beyond his own subjective impressions of people and situations. Abe is rather close-minded and tends to feel that he knows best without bothering to be objective and hear other people out. Although he isn’t very open to listening to those he disagrees with he is able to come around eventually, and even becomes willing to support Midge by setting up the meeting with the divorce lawyer so she can begin to move on with her life.
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